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Trying to be in the place for #FashionHouston


By: Aerika Eshelle

It’s back, Ladies!  Get ready to see and be seen this week as Houston celebrates Fashion!  You know you are addicted to style and all things beautiful and grand. Get your ticket today to see some of the hottest runway shows to hit H-Town. 

I’ll be there to cover it all.  I adore clothes as much as concerts….And you know I’m a pheen.  I’ve loved sketching, color and style since I was a little girl,  so I have to be in the place.  It’s not too late for you either.  Check out the dates below and TRY to make it over to the Wortham Center in Downtown Houston. 

Get you tickets HERE!  Don’t miss the event that will bring the most talented designers, the most celebrated models, and worshipers of style from around the globe to the city of Houston, Texas.

Thanks to Houston Tidbits for the below information!

Laura Mercier Pop-Up Shop
Tuesday, October 11 – Thursday, October 13
Learn how to create a flawless face from this year’s official beauty sponsor, Laura Mercier, a global brand headquartered right here in town. Stop by their chic set-up in the Audi Pavilion at the Wortham to shop shades available exclusively during Fashion Houston, then get snapped by a pro photog on your way out.

Would You Die For Fashion?
Tuesday, October 11, 10 p.m.
Aries Milan, owner of Coquette Boutique & Bistro, debuts her first fashion collection. See Kate Kills Pretty on the runway—the label name is a shout-out to the always-inspiring Miss Moss—then toast her at the private after-party at Side Bar at Gravitas featuring wine and passed bites.

Chloe After the Catwalk
Wednesday, October 12, 10 p.m.
After marveling over the Aztec prints she designed to use in her new collection, strut over to Chloe Dao’s post-runway celebration at Venue featuring footage from the show, a Dao Chloe Dao installation, candy bar, performance by Divisi Strings and looks from Elaine Turner. Pay $10 at the door, or get free entry with your Fashion Houston ticket.


Thursday, October 13, 6:30 – 8 p.m.
Models will storm the runway in Robert Rodriguez’s sure-to-be-stellar closing show.


#Trying to Find What I Enjoy Doing…#Discontent



Angel Elexa

In an article by Ruchira Agrawal, 6 Ways To Discover Your Authentic Work, she writes about finding your passion and making it work for you.  Ruchira says, “Some of you may be familiar with the term ‘authentic work’, others perhaps reading this for the first time and wondering what it really means. The term ‘authenticity’ according to Wikipedia means – “the degree to which one is true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character”, despite “external forces, pressures, and influences”. And when you apply it to your work, it obviously means engaging in work that is closest to who you are as a person and what you’re naturally gifted and talented in.”

Well, I hadn’t been so blessed to find exactly what that means for me yet. I’m just trying to work and pay the bills now because I’m discontent.  I thought that getting my degree in something that I thought I loved would mean starting at a certain salary level and would allow me to be Young with Money.  I’m not talking about Weezy, Drake and Nikki Minaj money, but still having enough to venture out on my own the first year after school, buy a house, travel and splurge and save all at the same time. You know, do the things that I wanted to in life without always checking the budget first.

 I thought if I did well enough in school, applied myself in my internships, companies would be eager to recruit me at their career fairs.  Interestingly enough, I even thought going back for my MBA would help me achieve status in the corporate arena.  And even at 30 and almost 8 years in the industry, I’m just now making what I should’ve been 8 years ago. Oh, how the Visions of Grandeur have mocked me. 

We’ve all suffered layoffs, manager cruelty and other promotional injustices during our careers and have learned that the job search sucks.  It’s such a numbers game and I can’t seem to figure it out.  So with that being said, what is an authentic job for any of us?  Where we thought selecting a major in college would catapult us to our dream job, many of us have learned that it’s just the opposite.  And it just leaves you wanting more out of life.  The question becomes, how can you link up what you like to do with earning money to support you?  Maybe we should not search for success with a corporation to support someone else’s dream, BUT  venture out on our own and create the opportunities for ourselves. 

They say when the time is right, THINGS just seem to start happening.  Chances are, you were already thinking about pursuing dream.  I hadn’t really gotten the chance to be fully creative and at my job.  The discontentment actually led me to be an entrepreneur, and I have to admit, starting my own business has been gratifying.  It takes my mind off the day-to-day stuff at my 9-5 .  It even makes me wonder about going back to school and meshing the two things I’m passionate about most, Marketing and Interior design.  So in the meantime, until I can make a firm decision, I’ve started dabbling in the homestaging, interior redesign and social media consulting business.  All things I love and I actually get to use my marketing degree to promote my baby.   

My message to you today is that life doesn’t always turn out the way we envision it, but it at least births out something that you never imagined that may be just as good, if not better! 

You may think you’re on the right path, but be flexible enough to venture off YOUR defined path and be led to the one FATE wants you on.  Trust me, HE will give you the most inner desires of your heart that you didn’t even think were possible.   I think Ruchira got it right, “It’s easy to find fulfillment when you pursue an authentic career“.

Read Ruchira’s Full Article HERE.

LIVE Life and Prosper!


#Trying to Remain Calm….#IHateItWhen


Keysharion “KeKe” Parker

I hate it when…you ask someone a legitimate question and they give you an F’d up ass answer.  Thanks for thinking I’m a dumb ass. 

So I visited Philly a few months back with the girls and we were kicking it at a wine spot, a little tipsy, and a lot of dancin’ to a little band that was jamming jazz and some r&b.  The guys in the band were doing their thang and we were having a great night.  Okay…..until, the lead guy comes over to the table and asks if we had any requests.  Nice, right?! 

Well, I politely asked if he could play any Ne-Yo.  Mind you, I had just heard a band in N.O. play Champagne Life in a hole in the wall club a couple of months prior.  I didn’t think my request was far fetched, but damn! The answer I got back was ‘rude as hell’.  I mean I wasn’t trying to belittle what the band was doing by any means, I just thought it would keep the party going. 

For real, don’t look at me like I’m stupid and say “Uh…NO! Why in the hell would we play that?!” Well, in my opinion don’t bring your ass over here and ask if we have any requests. So my non-drunk, crunk answer should have been, “You’re a motherf***in’ band asking for requests, aren’t you?! That’s why you need to play that “ish! You obviously ain’t that big yet to be turning folk down, now are you?”   I think I should’ve gone Evelyn Lozada on him and told him what’s real! Yes, I have anger mgmt issues and I need help.  Fortunately for him, I was lil’ tipsy and I just got quiet and festered until now….LOL

I’m jus’ sayin’, I hate it when people get their jollies off of making other people feel like crap.  You don’t have to TRY to embarrrass anyone to have control over the situation.  Just have some compassion and patience.  Yes, people do ask stupid questions, but Damn don’t you do the same thing, too?   Be helpful because you never know how that could lead to your next blessing.

I mean dude was kinda cute.  If he had played his cards rights, he actually coulda got it  🙂 

I’m jus’ sayin’!…SMH

LIVE Life…and Respect My Gangsta!


#Trying to Kick it….The End of the Week is #LikeNothingElse…


Awww Suki Suki!  It’s the Weekend, Baby!  TGIF, For Real!  We made it, y’all!  See how the rest of the weekend is gonna play out for you.

Friday & Saturday- HAPPY

As you can see, we have made it to the end of the week and look at the smile on that face!  Too excited to be free to do what you want to do….even if it is just running errands around town on Saturday.  It’s your time and you can wake up at your leisure….Hopefully!  Songs were made about the weekend.  It’s Friday and I’m ready to swang. Pick up my girls and hit the party scene…Tonight, ohohoh, It’s Alright!-AALIYAH   Make sure to hit up a daytime party for me and get your fly accessories with

Sunday – WORRIED

Well, look it’s Sunday again.  Where did the last two days go?  Oh no, now you’ve started thinking about all the stuff you have do during the week.  School, Work, the kids, oh my!  How can you enjoy this last moment of your weekend without worrying.  I don’t know if you can. It’s called Sunday Anxiety!  It begins to take over you because you got up early, went to church possibly, cooked your evening meal, maybe even hung out with some friends for brunch.  You’ve had you last bit of weekend fun and you realize it has to come to an end…..And then….you move into the next phase…..

Sunday Evening – RAGE

Oh, No!  It’s time to go to bed.  You are really upset now.  Why is it that we go through this every week?  There has never been a day in my work career that I’ve felt joy about going to the job on Monday.   It requires prayer and meditation to just have enough strength to get out of the bed on Monday and make it in one time….LOL  Don’t trip, I’m glad I have a job, but I’m Mad I gotta go.  Anybody know of a job where I can work from home? Maybe that would ease the tension.

LIVE Life, Have a Great Weekend….And a Happy Monday!

Keysharion “KeKe” Parker


Trying to Make an Adjustment…


To my life.  I was invited to a special screening event hosted by Liquid Soul Media  for the new movie The Adjustment Bureau. You may have seen previews with the hot Matt Damon, but you will never imagine the multitude of twists and turns that await the avid movie watcher. 

Don’t doubt the enticement of this movie and pass on seeing it. It’s not like anything we’ve seen in our generation….and that’s saying a lot.  As a movie connoiseur, Hollywood uses cookie cutter themes to make 3D movies to impress and draw us in, but what about the story being the basis of our excitement and not all the effects?  George Nolfi rewrote and directed this thriller, sci-fi, action, romance to provide our society something  so exciting and so different that I’m blogging  from my IPhone to encourage you to see this movie opening night on March 4th.  

Impressed is truly the word of the evening and I’m not usually a writer of profound thought until something makes me think….Well, I guess I’m always contemplating life.  It’s what us Twenty and Thirty somethings do. The Adjustment Bureau seeks to explain the questions that our human race struggles with daily….Do we really have free will and do our lives follow a divine order? And most importantly, how does each decision effect life scenarios as we battle between the two?

Most of us believe in a higher power, but how much does he/she control and allow when it comes to the path you are supposed to be on? Do we ever reach our destiny if we do not follow the plan or do we have a say in how our lives go and we help create the plan? Is that divine power ultimately waiting on us to respond and/or implement the plan? The bigger question is  would you go against the plan to get what you were supposed to have anyway?!

I know what I believe and I have admit this movie made me look at some things with a more enlightened view point. I encourage all my Trying Twenties and Flirty Thirty Sorors to get outta the house and see this movie.  There is something for everyone.  Grab your Boo, your girls, and your homies and go to this movie. Be encouraged by it and take time to evaluate your thoughts and realign your life to what’s most important.

Watch the trailer here: 

Will you allow free will to help you push, push, push to accomplish what you feel strongly about or will you allow divine order to write and lay out the path you should follow? Somehow, in some weird way, I think it can be both.

Go see The Adjustment Bureau premiering March 4th and let me know your thoughts. 

We know expressing beliefs can be a touchy subject, but please don’t be rude. Respect our fellow sorors and their beliefs when commenting.

Live life…and let the plan play out. You’re destined for greatness!

Angel Elexa


Trying to be Amazing…


Last night I had the privelage to meet Ms. Barbara Smith Conrad.  She is and was Amazing.  I say that because her story develops in a small country town in Texas and catapults to a beautiful life and opera career taking her all over the world. Starting off in an Baptist choir, she knew that she was bound for something great in music. Never did she realize that a temultuous event at the University of Texas would help create her to be the Mezzo – Soprano she was meant to be.   The University of Texas with AT&T put her story in film and “When I Rise” was the perfect title to her story.

As I waited in line last night to meet this awesome woman I thought about what I would say. She truly had a humble and loving spirit, even though her friends called her a Diva. One word described her story and it was Amazing. We all have had lessons of those great Black leaders in our society that have made a difference in the civil rights movement and those who had been firsts in their industries overcoming major objections. Often times we recite the same stories of those heroes, but we miss out on stories of other awesome men and women that endured the same prejudices and segregation standards of the 40’s and 50’s era. 

Barbara Smith Conrad stands out to me as a heroine, because she and many others were on the verge on their TryingTwenties.  The University of  Texas had just opened their doors to undergraduate black students.  Though the town still practiced segregation, these young women and men still had the courage to walk down the corridors of the school and strive to better themselves.  At Twenty, Barbara Smith Conrad, was chosen by her music professors to be apart of what should have been her first opera.  When word got around, the school was left to make a very hard decision…to allow her to represent the leading lady in Dido and Aeneas along side a white male lead OR to strip her away of the honor she so rightfully deserved.  Unfortunately at that point, the state had intervened and threatened to take away the school’s funding.  She politely bowed out of the production as the controversy ensued around her.  She walked the campus feeling left out and frightened only to be jeered and spat on by citizens of Austin.  Fleeing home for safety for a period of time, she came back to the school to finish out her studies ONLY. 

Last night, inching up in the line to greet her where she sat, while many others cut in line to talk to her, I still didn’t know what I would say to someone who had been through so much just to do what she loved most.  With such poise and grace and with the help of another acclaimed black artist,  Barbara Smith Conrad went on to Try new things.  She moved to a new city…New York to be exact and also learned new languages to build her craft.  She got cast in the lead of the most beautiful operas around the world and even got a contract with the Met.  She asked one question that touched my soul…”Who would I have been had I not ever returned back to Texas?” What if she had allowed anger to have entered her heart and linger these many years and resent the very place that had in some way positioned her towards the greatness she deserved?  That is a profound question.  If I had half as much humility and grace as many of my sisters that endured those Trying times, I would immediately be a better person.  She even said that you just have to resolve “those were the times in which we lived”. The times weren’t right and that brings me back to how amazing she was.

As I finally get to my time, my friends and I who look like the rainbow, approached her for photos.  I knew she was busy and had others doting on her, but I finally knew what I would say.  Simply, “Thank you for enduring those Trying times and showing us that we can all be Amazing, no matter what!”  Of course, she engaged us in conversation and photos. I think that she felt pleased that all the young ladies in my group were from different races and we could now all come together in our Twenties and Thirties in 2011 and celebrate her Amazingness together. 

If you think about it, 40 or 50 years is not that long to ago to have not been awarded the same rights as other students or citizens your age.  I just think that if my college career had been that Trying, I may not have made it out, though that was the only way to be even remotely successful.  Where we are thinking about parties, getting our first jobs, and who we may or may not marry, Barbara Smith Conrad and her friends had so many other pressures to push through.

Though I didn’t get to say all that I wanted, here are some more thoughts that stirred late into the night that I would say if given the time and chance:

Thank you for handling your situation with grace and humility and that beauty can be shown inside and out. 

Thank you for showing us how important education is and knowing that you wanted to make yourself better.

Thank you for bringing opera to our world and showing other little black girls that we can sing beautifully, too.

Thank you for not letting your incident cause you hatred and fear.  You allowed that to push you forward and become the person you were meant to be.

Thank you for showing them. Showing them that black people and women can be more than what is told to us.

Thank you for still having an Amazing countenance and demeanor towards life with a quirky sense of humor.  It was engaging.

Thank you for being an inspiration to all of us Twenty and Thirty something that we can be Amazing, too!

and above all else….

Just Thank you!

Check out “When I Rise” on Independent Lens on your Local PBS station.  Yes, I know PBS is not all that exciting, but Babara Smith Conrad’s story is.  You can even watch it online at

LIVE Life…Because we are allowed.  Happy Black History Month!

Angela Wells


Trying to Understand Dating….


Especially from these lame ole’ dudes perspective.  In my pursuit to understand how the male mind operates, I recently ran across a site that a cool guy put together to help his fellow counterparts learn the Art of Manliness.  I was so impressed, that I signed up for his daily newsletter.  The information is of course geared toward men, but it did make me realize that there are some things that men should be doing that I, nor my homegirls are getting from the dating scene today.  Men our age have lost the art of courting in the “Get to know you” Phase and it did my heart goood to see this author and his wife put them on blast.  

Now ladies, I’m not saying that we aren’t to blame in some of this, but it is nice to see the male gender take on some of the responsibility.  Maybe, I’ll get the crew together and write an article on how to be more womanly and how to be ready to receive the niceties of our future Gentleman and ScholarEnjoy the article below with some of my commentary mixed in. You know I can’t keep my mouth shut….LOL


Stop Hanging Out With Women and Start Dating Them….AMEN TO THAT!

 by Brett and Kate McKay   January 16, 2008 · 213

Over the past few years, many social observers have noted that young adults are dating less. Instead, dating is being replaced by “hanging out” with members of the opposite sex. Dating and hanging out are two completely different things. Hanging out consists of people getting together in groups and doing stuff together. It could be going to a club, a restaurant, or just staying home and playing Wii……So true! and I’m tired of getting movies from the redbox! The atmosphere is relaxed and relations among opposite sexes never rises above the level of friendship. There is nothing wrong with hanging out, but it is not a replacement for dating…..Yes, because I might actually be feeling you, but I don’t want to make the first move and then ruin our friendship.  If you like me stop being lazy and let me know it! And truthfully at this age…I’m not just trying to be your homegirl. I’m Ms. Right and I’m Awesome…..Helloooooo!

Dating consists of pairing off with someone in a temporary commitment so you can get to know the person better and perhaps start a long term relationship with them. Why the decline in dating? There are probably lots of factors that have contributed to the decline of dating amongst young adults….I have a theory that timing and desire plays a big part.  If you don’t catch a dude in his mid twenties when he’s ready to meet someone and have a lasting relationship, then they fall into some weird abyss called the “Social Degenerator” somewhere between 26-32.  If he’s in that phase of life, he doesn’t see the need to date, get to know someone other than his boyz that he drinks and plays X-box with. From 26 on, he just continues to get more set in his ways and then forgets how to have a relationship with any female.

Here are few possible ones:

1. Young adults don’t like to commit. It seems like people in my generation aren’t big on making commitments to people or to organizations. Generation Y is too busy trying to “find themselves” in order to commit to anybody or anything. Companies have complained about the turn over rate of Generation Y. Companies invest lots of money training new employees only to have them leave after two years so they can find a new job. This reluctance to commit has carried over to the interaction between the sexes. Young adults don’t want to be tied down to someone just in case they get an itch to go on a backpacking trip to Europe…..So True!  But the problem lies in the fact that maybe if I want to go backpacking or travel and see the world, I would want a dude to roll with me.  Not that I don’t love my girls, but I’m ready to hang out and get life started with a significant other.  I’m too old  for this non-existant dating scenario…LOL


2. The internet has retarded Generation Y’s social skills. Instead of telling a person directly that they’re interested in them by asking them on a date, Generation Y sends Crush alerts on Facebook…..Or they try to go through the “Get to know you” Phase via text message.  So much gets lost in translation this way.  How will you ever get to know me?  While the internet has made connecting with people easier, it has also made us lazier at establishing meaningful relationships. If you’re over 18 and you’re still using Facebook applications to let someone know you’re interested in them, you need to be punched in the face……HAAAAAAAHHHHHH….RIGHT?!!

3. Feminism. Before I receive the wrath of all the feminists telling me it’s a typical man thing to blame women for the decline in dating, I ask that you hear me out. I think feminism is great. It’s great that women can choose to have a career, be a stay-at-home mom, or do both.…Well, I definately want the choice to do either and your support in doing whatever I choose…LOL  But it does make things confusing for men. Navigating relations among the sexes is a bit more tricky today. Men have all these questions go through their head: Who asks?….Uh, you still do! Stop being lame. I want to be approached, persued and courted….Old school, for real! If I ask, will she think I’m too forward?.…NOT at all….Ask me…forwardness shows confidence and I love that! Just don’t be an asshole and arrogant with it. Who pays for the date?Do we split the bill?...Uh, He needs to pay for the bill and I may offer to leave the tip.  Now, if I’m really feeling you, I might pay for us to do something like a concert and I may foot the bill on occasion once we get a few dates in.  But really I shouldn’t have to do that either. That’s just a GOOD Girl Courtesy….IF I”M FEELING YOU!  All these uncertainties cause men to avoid dating altogether and opt for hanging out with women instead.

4. Men today are wussies…..PREACH, BROTHA!  Men today aren’t very resilient. They don’t know how to handle rejection or failure, so they avoid rejection or failure by not asking women out on dates….We understand if the dude is scared, but please grow a pair and get off your ass and ask me out.  I’ve gotten off my butt and tried to holla at a few dudes, but that only back fired in my face and they end up being involved or just plain Crazy….LOL  I would prefer if the guy asks because at least then I know he’s interested. I’m open to get to know anyone, but make it worth my time.

Why date? A lot of men today don’t seem to believe it, but getting hitched to the right woman is a very desirable thing.

So while there is nothing wrong with hanging out, it’s not a replacement for dating. Dating is the pathway to finding your true love and eventually settling down and getting married….Hello, and I definitely want to get married within the next two years!  Marriage is a one on one relationship, so you need to start getting to know women on a one on one basis. You might be hanging out with her and your friends right now, but if you don’t take her on date, she’ll forever be just your friend. So, start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that hard to get a date with a woman. Here are some guidelines to remember as you take hanging out up a level to dating.

Resurrect Dating

So, you’re ready to start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that hard to get a date with a woman. Here are some guidelines to remember as you take hanging out up a level to dating.

1. She wants you to ask. Despite the rhetoric you hear about the liberated woman, women still appreciate it when a guy asks her out on a date. They like when men take the initiative. I’ve heard lots of successful young professional women lament the fact that men don’t ask them out. They’re beautiful, smart, and charming, but don’t have a man. Be a man and ask these women out.

2. Asking is easy. Asking a woman out on a date isn’t rocket science. When you ask, though, do it in person or over the phone. If you’re poking a woman you’re interested in on Facebook, you lose any credibility as a man.

3. Keep dates simple. Dates don’t have to be huge, expensive affairs. Keep it simple. If you want to keep things informal, ask her out for lunch or coffee. If you want a more romantic date, invite her over to your place and make dinner for her. She’ll be impressed that you know how to cook. The whole point of dating is to get some one on one interaction with a person to find out if she is someone you’d like to start a long term relationship with. Simple and frequent dates will assist you in this.

4. Prepare for rejection. Face it. Not every woman you ask out is going to say yes. Prepare for that. It’s no big deal if she says no. Think about it. You’re no worse off getting rejected than you were before you asked. You didn’t have a date with her before, you don’t have a date with her now. Your situation has not changed.

5. Just do it, damn it. So what are you waiting for? Quit reading this post right now and pick up your cell phone. Call a woman and ask her on a date. Stop hanging out and start dating. Stop being scared of commitment. Commitment is liberating, not confining. I expect a lot of debate on this post. Please keep the conversation civil. It’s possible to disagree and still be a gentleman or a lady about it.

Well, ladies, what do you think? It’s 2011 and I think we need to get what we want.  Now if it’s not a man, then cool.  Be like that lady who got inceminated and decided to be a single mother on her own. I’ve decided that I’m gonna adopt a 12 year old if I’m still single in my late thirties.  I’m not mad at that!  Do YOU!  However, I think many of us desire companionship and a relationship with a significant other and we just need to get on that level to achieve our goals.  What are you going to do different in the new year to achieve your relationship goals?  By all means, we never say settle just to have….Always be patient to obtain the happiness your deserve. 

LIVE Life, LAUGH About it, LOVE Those who love you back…(no stalkers or crazy dudes, please!)

Angel Elexa

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