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#Trying to be a #Better Person

01/13/2012

By: Angel Elexa

I’m not big on forwards, especially those that require you to send to 20 people in the next 6 minutes.  However, every once in a while, I find one with useful information or just plain amusing that I’ll actually hit send to brighten someone else’s day.

Well, here’s one with some good advice from Tony Robbins that you could actually use to be a better, more thoughtful and compassionate person in 2012. 

We’re all about evolving and becoming optimal citizens of the world, right?  Take these 21 tasks and implement them into your everyday life.  See what you get in return.  Hopefully, a whole lotta of peace and blessing!  Remember to share this post on Facebook or Twitter with your friends. 

You don’t have to FORWARD this to get something you’ve wanted in the next 3 days….Just SHARE it to be NICE!

21 Tasks for 2012

ONE.  Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
 
TWO.  Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
 
THREE.  Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
 
FOUR.  When you say, ‘I love you’ , mean it.
 
FIVE.  When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye.

SIX.  Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
 
SEVEN.  Believe in love at first sight.
 
EIGHT.  Never laugh at anyone’s dream. People who don’t ave dreams don’t have much.
 
NINE.  Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt, but it’s the only way to live life completely.
 
TEN.  In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
 
ELEVEN.  Don’t judge people by their relatives.
 
TWELVE.  Talk slowly but think quickly.
 
THIRTEEN.  When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’
 
FOURTEEN.  Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
 
FIFTEEN.  Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.
 
SIXTEEN.  When you lose, don’t lose the lesson!
 
SEVENTEEN.  Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
 
EIGHTEEN.  Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship..
 
NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

 TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY-ONE.  Spend some time alone. Reflect and get to know you and what you want!

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Trying to be #Fabulous like @OfficialMsPiggy…#TheBestThingAboutThanksgiving

11/23/2011

By: Angel Elexa

Yeah, it’s sad!  I am the ripe age of Flirty 31 and too excited to the see the NEW Muppets Movie this Thanksgiving Holiday! Ms. Piggy is one of my long time favorite muppet.  She has style, grace and a bit of a temper…but I ain’t mad at that.  Sometimes we as women have to be a bit willing to put our Stiletto down and lay down the law. 

With that being said, Ms. Piggy is back starring in yet another Muppets Movie alongside her Green Prince Charming, Kermit the Frog.  Many designers have stepped up to make sure that Ms. Piggy is Fabulous for her debut.  The famous makeup company, MAC, even made Ms. Piggy her own line of products, while InStyle, provided her with her own layout in the magazine.  Other designers have taken on the task of redesigning Ms. Piggy’s wardrobe since she is a high-profile #Fashionista.

See her outfit below designed by an up and coming fashion mogul in Canada. I liked his demure, yet fashion forward frock the best.

Fashion Designer- Jeremy Laing : “In my earliest memory of Miss Piggy, I find her lounging in a marabou-feathered robe, pink of course. As she’s gotten older I can only imagine how much more she values her lounge time, and so I propose a robe gown. Because even on the red carpet, or pink as the case may be, a piggy deserves every comfort.”

Miss Piggy’s critique: “Moi in a shade other than neon-tinged pink, and with nary a sparkle to be seen? Hard to imagine! And yet, with his exquisite eye for texture and tailoring, Jeremy Laing has opened my eyes to the possibilities that lie beyond all that glitters. Most of all, I simply love the way the dress moves with moi. Très importante fashion tip: Always make sure that your dress moves with you. Trust me: If you move and the dress stays behind, scandal ensues.”

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11/02/2011

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Trying to Say #ThankYouSteve…

10/06/2011

As you know, we’ve lost a legend. Though he had a debilitating cancer, we just thought that when he retired, he’d just get some rest, feel better and come back.  Steve Jobs, was a guy that impacted our society and multiple generations with new technology and gadgets that we can’t live without.  You know you love your iPhone, iPods and iPads!  They have really changed how we communicate and  enjoy life!

Our bloggers have been talking a lot about finding and creating happiness and opportunities in our lives lately. Many of us in our TryingTwenties and FlirtyThirties are feeling inadequate in life due to how we have allowed ourselves to be treated in relationships, on our jobs and by other people.  We’re looking for excitement and joy during our quarter life crisis and need desperately to move past the dark feelings of just existing. 

Let’s take a look at Steve’s life to find some encouragement and remember his life. He endured 20 years of hard times trying to get Apple off the ground, a mere start-up company in his garage.  Success may not happen right when we want it, but persistence and dedication will yield results.  Steve Job’s never stopped believing in himself, his partners, his company and the initial dream.  If something grand is calling you, then embrace it and don’t hesitate to make a change!  When you go on to Glory, you will have left your mark on this world, like Steve did, with no regrets in pursuing your dreams.  

LIVE Life….and do what you love.

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Trying to Understand the Why’s of Life…#howtomakeitinamerica

10/03/2011

By: Keysharion “Keke” Parker

Why do we seem to let other people get to us? They get us down, they ruin our weeks and weekends, and to just be truthful, steal our joy! Why do we allow people to take away what we feel and know about ourselves? It makes us feel inadequate on the job/school/church, and in friendships/relationships.

I get that other people are driven by accomplishment and acquisition of things. Why is it that you can’t be a nice person and have the amount of success you want, too? It seems like the more lazy, the least logical and crazy you are, the further you go in this life.  The only comfort for us good-hearted people is knowing that our riches are supposedly not here on this earth. The greater treasure is the reward in the afterlife based on how we treated others.

In my quarter-life crisis, I’ve realized that I want it all…Brand new socks and draws…success and to be a good and kind individual. For some reason, however, I keep running into mofo’s who make everything difficult!  I promise, it is not my intent to  wanna curse anyone out on Monday morning on my job, but dammit other people sure make it hard for a sista.  They smile in your face and then talk about you to your manager behind your back to make themselves look better.  Why should I not want to kick someone in their teeth or stab them with a pencil?

I don’t condone violence at all, but I have sure seen my attitude get bad over the last few years. Reasons, I’m sure you know, like unfair treatment, lack of respect shown or being just plain talked about.  All the drama has taught me that bad treatment shouldn’t denote me treating someone else like I smoke crack.  I know that I don’t have to honk my horn back at the person who honked their horn at me because they were too impatient to wait for me to turn across traffic. I get it, but hell, I just don’t feel like going out of my way sometimes to be accommodating. 

I think this quote from Mother Teresa says it best. Now, I’m no saint, but I want to be like one. Hopefully, the situations in life won’t alter my attitude too badly before I get there. Right now, people are working my nerves and I only exist to fight another day.  One day, I’ll be open-minded enough to find joy in knowing that I’m enlightened enough to give the benefit of the doubt to others and not let it affect my moral psyche and demeanor.   

People are often unreasonable and self-centered.

Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.

Be kind anyway.

If you find happiness, people may be jealous.

Be happy anyway.

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.

Give your best anyway.

For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.

It was never between you and them anyway.

-Mother Teresa

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#Trying to Find What I Enjoy Doing…#Discontent

08/05/2011

By:

Angel Elexa

In an article by Ruchira Agrawal, 6 Ways To Discover Your Authentic Work, she writes about finding your passion and making it work for you.  Ruchira says, “Some of you may be familiar with the term ‘authentic work’, others perhaps reading this for the first time and wondering what it really means. The term ‘authenticity’ according to Wikipedia means – “the degree to which one is true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character”, despite “external forces, pressures, and influences”. And when you apply it to your work, it obviously means engaging in work that is closest to who you are as a person and what you’re naturally gifted and talented in.”

Well, I hadn’t been so blessed to find exactly what that means for me yet. I’m just trying to work and pay the bills now because I’m discontent.  I thought that getting my degree in something that I thought I loved would mean starting at a certain salary level and would allow me to be Young with Money.  I’m not talking about Weezy, Drake and Nikki Minaj money, but still having enough to venture out on my own the first year after school, buy a house, travel and splurge and save all at the same time. You know, do the things that I wanted to in life without always checking the budget first.

 I thought if I did well enough in school, applied myself in my internships, companies would be eager to recruit me at their career fairs.  Interestingly enough, I even thought going back for my MBA would help me achieve status in the corporate arena.  And even at 30 and almost 8 years in the industry, I’m just now making what I should’ve been 8 years ago. Oh, how the Visions of Grandeur have mocked me. 

We’ve all suffered layoffs, manager cruelty and other promotional injustices during our careers and have learned that the job search sucks.  It’s such a numbers game and I can’t seem to figure it out.  So with that being said, what is an authentic job for any of us?  Where we thought selecting a major in college would catapult us to our dream job, many of us have learned that it’s just the opposite.  And it just leaves you wanting more out of life.  The question becomes, how can you link up what you like to do with earning money to support you?  Maybe we should not search for success with a corporation to support someone else’s dream, BUT  venture out on our own and create the opportunities for ourselves. 

They say when the time is right, THINGS just seem to start happening.  Chances are, you were already thinking about pursuing dream.  I hadn’t really gotten the chance to be fully creative and at my job.  The discontentment actually led me to be an entrepreneur, and I have to admit, starting my own business has been gratifying.  It takes my mind off the day-to-day stuff at my 9-5 .  It even makes me wonder about going back to school and meshing the two things I’m passionate about most, Marketing and Interior design.  So in the meantime, until I can make a firm decision, I’ve started dabbling in the homestaging, interior redesign and social media consulting business.  All things I love and I actually get to use my marketing degree to promote my baby.   

My message to you today is that life doesn’t always turn out the way we envision it, but it at least births out something that you never imagined that may be just as good, if not better! 

You may think you’re on the right path, but be flexible enough to venture off YOUR defined path and be led to the one FATE wants you on.  Trust me, HE will give you the most inner desires of your heart that you didn’t even think were possible.   I think Ruchira got it right, “It’s easy to find fulfillment when you pursue an authentic career“.

Read Ruchira’s Full Article HERE.

LIVE Life and Prosper!

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#Trying to Remember #AmyWinehouse…

07/27/2011

By:

Keysharion “KeKe” Parker

Because she was one of our TryingTwenties Sorors, we want to express our sympathy for Amy Winehouse, (Trying 27).  We were saddened to hear about her death, however, not surprised.  In these TryingTwenties years, we struggle with day to day afflictions that send our world in turmoil and turn it upside down.  We don’t often know how to handle the inconsistencies of life.  Some of us do better than others due to outside guidance and our upbringing.  Some of us are just lucky to figure life out at an early age.  There are some of us that never get the opportunity to really shine because of addictions and emotional issues holding us back from our true potential. 

Yes, I can be civil when needed.  There’s just some things that get me angry and I make incorrect decisions.  No one is above it, you just may be smarter at recognizing and dealing with the consequences.  That possibly comes with age. She didn’t make the best decisions regarding her health and life, so let’s remember Amy for the talent she had.  We jammed her music, we thought she was on point with that Jay-Z collab, so let’s remember her for the music and the good times she helped us all have. When she was sober she produced a bomb album and looked great, too!

It’s sad she’ll be apart of the “27 Club” and will go down in history as a great artist that died at 27.  But we should take a lesson of what brought on their demise.  Being 27 is hard enough, but it won’t kill you.  It’s the choices you make around that age that will.  Jimi Hendrix, Brian Jones, Janis Joplin, Kurt Cobain and Amy Winehouse were talented individuals and drug abuse and other addictions sadly took them away from us prematurely.  Think about it, we are the ones deprived of great music and with their talent they could’ve been shuttin’ down the party for another 20 years.

If you don’t take anything else away from this post, know that life can be fun at this age, but don’t take it to the extreme.  If you need advice, counseling, rehab, whatev….Don’t be too proud to get it before it’s too late.  You’ll never know how awesome you could’ve been!

LIVE Life…and Try to Make Better Decisions!

REST IN PEACE, AMY! WE LOVED BACK TO BLACK!

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