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#Trying to Find What I Enjoy Doing…#Discontent



Angel Elexa

In an article by Ruchira Agrawal, 6 Ways To Discover Your Authentic Work, she writes about finding your passion and making it work for you.  Ruchira says, “Some of you may be familiar with the term ‘authentic work’, others perhaps reading this for the first time and wondering what it really means. The term ‘authenticity’ according to Wikipedia means – “the degree to which one is true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character”, despite “external forces, pressures, and influences”. And when you apply it to your work, it obviously means engaging in work that is closest to who you are as a person and what you’re naturally gifted and talented in.”

Well, I hadn’t been so blessed to find exactly what that means for me yet. I’m just trying to work and pay the bills now because I’m discontent.  I thought that getting my degree in something that I thought I loved would mean starting at a certain salary level and would allow me to be Young with Money.  I’m not talking about Weezy, Drake and Nikki Minaj money, but still having enough to venture out on my own the first year after school, buy a house, travel and splurge and save all at the same time. You know, do the things that I wanted to in life without always checking the budget first.

 I thought if I did well enough in school, applied myself in my internships, companies would be eager to recruit me at their career fairs.  Interestingly enough, I even thought going back for my MBA would help me achieve status in the corporate arena.  And even at 30 and almost 8 years in the industry, I’m just now making what I should’ve been 8 years ago. Oh, how the Visions of Grandeur have mocked me. 

We’ve all suffered layoffs, manager cruelty and other promotional injustices during our careers and have learned that the job search sucks.  It’s such a numbers game and I can’t seem to figure it out.  So with that being said, what is an authentic job for any of us?  Where we thought selecting a major in college would catapult us to our dream job, many of us have learned that it’s just the opposite.  And it just leaves you wanting more out of life.  The question becomes, how can you link up what you like to do with earning money to support you?  Maybe we should not search for success with a corporation to support someone else’s dream, BUT  venture out on our own and create the opportunities for ourselves. 

They say when the time is right, THINGS just seem to start happening.  Chances are, you were already thinking about pursuing dream.  I hadn’t really gotten the chance to be fully creative and at my job.  The discontentment actually led me to be an entrepreneur, and I have to admit, starting my own business has been gratifying.  It takes my mind off the day-to-day stuff at my 9-5 .  It even makes me wonder about going back to school and meshing the two things I’m passionate about most, Marketing and Interior design.  So in the meantime, until I can make a firm decision, I’ve started dabbling in the homestaging, interior redesign and social media consulting business.  All things I love and I actually get to use my marketing degree to promote my baby.   

My message to you today is that life doesn’t always turn out the way we envision it, but it at least births out something that you never imagined that may be just as good, if not better! 

You may think you’re on the right path, but be flexible enough to venture off YOUR defined path and be led to the one FATE wants you on.  Trust me, HE will give you the most inner desires of your heart that you didn’t even think were possible.   I think Ruchira got it right, “It’s easy to find fulfillment when you pursue an authentic career“.

Read Ruchira’s Full Article HERE.

LIVE Life and Prosper!


Trying to Find Peace with Situations….


Here’s a daily blog I subscribe to that tends to uplift me in my moments of doubt and worry. This young man is very knowledgable and in touch with feelings and emotions and wants you to know that you are loved and can be at peace with life and it’s crazy circumstances. You just have to choose to do so. The choice is often the hard part, because it’s just plain easier to blame circumstance and be angry at the situation.

Let’s try to live above life’s drama and find the beauty in perfect timing and peace. Better said than done, huh?

LIVE Life…and don’t kill yourself with stress!

Angel Elexa

My name is Mastin Kipp & I am the Founder of The Daily Love.

There are SUPER frustrating times on The Path. Instead of fighting against frustrating times with more frustration, anger and resentment, take a higher road today.

Remember, a delay is not a denial. The Uni-verse’s timing is always perfect and if something isn’t quite manifesting yet, there is a reason. So, today, instead of choosing to be angry, hurt or just plain ole pissed off, take a BIIIIG DEEP BREATH and know that everything is happening in perfect time. It might piss you off to know that it’s not happening in YOUR time, but it is happening in the perfect time.

Do what you can do that’s within your power today and let go of the rest. There’s no use letting the things you can’t control dictate your level of happiness.

So, instead of choosing frustration because you think you won’t be provided for or taken care of, choose to see the circumstance through the eyes of faith, and then relax, let it go and enjoy the rest of your day doing what you can.

We are not all powerful beings, though sometimes our ego would like us to think we are. There is also a tremendous gift in not always getting what you want. There are gentle and compassionate Hands that are guiding your life.

So instead of fighting against what you cannot control today, let go and choose to see the delay as a miracle in disguise sent by One who loves you, who has your best interest in mind and Who is setting up an even greater outcome than you can now imagine.




Trying to Love Me….


 I happened to be looking in the mirror this morning on the way to work and noticed my ears.  I actually thought to myself, “Wow, my ears are cute!  I love them”.  Not for the sole purpose of hearing from them, but becuase they are mine and they are not too big and not too small.  They are slightly elfin and have 2 piercings in each, one in which doesn’t function, but I still love them. 

I know… vain, huh?  But truth be told, I’ve had a complex for years about my features.  My mom’s side of the family makes fun of my dad’s side of the family’s feet.  And I got those feet.  It took me years to love them.  I also grew up with some mean little boys who thought my nose was big.  Thank God I grew into that…LOL  I was convinced that I would get a nose job at 18.  Then there was that dude who told me my eyes were too close together.  Thanks, right?!  Well, I’m glad to be able to say that I can see 20/20 with my eyes and focus on the things that matter most. 

That is learning to love me for what I have and not being bothered by what other people think of how God put me together.  I can’t say that I have the tightest abs, the longest hair, the curvy waist line, or the cutest nose.  But I can say that what I have is mine.  And I can say that it took me 30 years to get to this point of acceptance where I decide what I love about me without anyone else’s influence. 

So here’s to eyes, ears, noses and other body parts we neglect and don’t show enough appreciation for.  We struggle with acceptance in our Twenties, but we come to accept ourselves in our Thirties.  Tell us what makes you feel Fabulous.  Tell us what helps you Flirt and tell us what do find Fun accessorizing and dressing. 

I’m all ears!  And funny I should bring it up, but  I love accessorizing with earrings!…LOL  Check out some at our store. That’s where I get mine from. 

LIVE Life and LOVE Everything about you!

Angel Elexa

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Trying to Aspire for MORE


I’m sitting in the airport waiting to board my flight to New York. This trip means more to me than just reuniting with college friends, but it’s about wanting more from my life and deciding to take the next steps to have the things I desire for me.

You may think that sounds extreme for the premise of a trip, but I’ve decided that 2011 is my year of US travel. I am 30 and I’ve never been to NYC. I decided that needed to change quickly.

As I peruse magazine racks in the airport, I run across a magazine called MORE…For Women of Style and Substance. Well of course, I want that! I want it all these days! I want everything that my twenties didn’t give me! I want style, substance, flare and a new life. Not that this one has been bad, but I’m definitely ready for MORE.

I’m actually traveling within the US this year to learn about new cities, what places are exciting, and hopefully find the place that may become my new home next year. I’m ready for MORE culture, more job opportunities, more wealth, more joy, more love and just a change!

I haven’t been happy in my current city for over 5 years! BUT I have had no real reason to leave.  However, there is no real reason to stay. I left when I was 19 to attend school in Illinois and my first job brought me back home and I’ve been feeling stuck eversense. 5 years of waiting and pushing for things to happen and still nothing has gone according to my plan. I have a house, but no one to share it with. A decent job, but I’m undervalued. Great friends, but we don’t get together much. Things to do, but it feels like its becoming the same old things. Had some dates, but the guys seem so lazy. The city is vast, but it’s so slow. See nothing bad, but nothing great to stay for! I feel like a new life is calling me and I have to answer to reach my full potential. I’ve even thought about joining the peace core!

I just need MORE, the BEST for me and to be out of this quarter life crisis! Tell me where you live and what’s awesome about your town. I may just visit your city next!

LIVE Life…and always be grateful for MORE!

Angel Elexa


Trying to be Amazing…


Last night I had the privelage to meet Ms. Barbara Smith Conrad.  She is and was Amazing.  I say that because her story develops in a small country town in Texas and catapults to a beautiful life and opera career taking her all over the world. Starting off in an Baptist choir, she knew that she was bound for something great in music. Never did she realize that a temultuous event at the University of Texas would help create her to be the Mezzo – Soprano she was meant to be.   The University of Texas with AT&T put her story in film and “When I Rise” was the perfect title to her story.

As I waited in line last night to meet this awesome woman I thought about what I would say. She truly had a humble and loving spirit, even though her friends called her a Diva. One word described her story and it was Amazing. We all have had lessons of those great Black leaders in our society that have made a difference in the civil rights movement and those who had been firsts in their industries overcoming major objections. Often times we recite the same stories of those heroes, but we miss out on stories of other awesome men and women that endured the same prejudices and segregation standards of the 40’s and 50’s era. 

Barbara Smith Conrad stands out to me as a heroine, because she and many others were on the verge on their TryingTwenties.  The University of  Texas had just opened their doors to undergraduate black students.  Though the town still practiced segregation, these young women and men still had the courage to walk down the corridors of the school and strive to better themselves.  At Twenty, Barbara Smith Conrad, was chosen by her music professors to be apart of what should have been her first opera.  When word got around, the school was left to make a very hard decision…to allow her to represent the leading lady in Dido and Aeneas along side a white male lead OR to strip her away of the honor she so rightfully deserved.  Unfortunately at that point, the state had intervened and threatened to take away the school’s funding.  She politely bowed out of the production as the controversy ensued around her.  She walked the campus feeling left out and frightened only to be jeered and spat on by citizens of Austin.  Fleeing home for safety for a period of time, she came back to the school to finish out her studies ONLY. 

Last night, inching up in the line to greet her where she sat, while many others cut in line to talk to her, I still didn’t know what I would say to someone who had been through so much just to do what she loved most.  With such poise and grace and with the help of another acclaimed black artist,  Barbara Smith Conrad went on to Try new things.  She moved to a new city…New York to be exact and also learned new languages to build her craft.  She got cast in the lead of the most beautiful operas around the world and even got a contract with the Met.  She asked one question that touched my soul…”Who would I have been had I not ever returned back to Texas?” What if she had allowed anger to have entered her heart and linger these many years and resent the very place that had in some way positioned her towards the greatness she deserved?  That is a profound question.  If I had half as much humility and grace as many of my sisters that endured those Trying times, I would immediately be a better person.  She even said that you just have to resolve “those were the times in which we lived”. The times weren’t right and that brings me back to how amazing she was.

As I finally get to my time, my friends and I who look like the rainbow, approached her for photos.  I knew she was busy and had others doting on her, but I finally knew what I would say.  Simply, “Thank you for enduring those Trying times and showing us that we can all be Amazing, no matter what!”  Of course, she engaged us in conversation and photos. I think that she felt pleased that all the young ladies in my group were from different races and we could now all come together in our Twenties and Thirties in 2011 and celebrate her Amazingness together. 

If you think about it, 40 or 50 years is not that long to ago to have not been awarded the same rights as other students or citizens your age.  I just think that if my college career had been that Trying, I may not have made it out, though that was the only way to be even remotely successful.  Where we are thinking about parties, getting our first jobs, and who we may or may not marry, Barbara Smith Conrad and her friends had so many other pressures to push through.

Though I didn’t get to say all that I wanted, here are some more thoughts that stirred late into the night that I would say if given the time and chance:

Thank you for handling your situation with grace and humility and that beauty can be shown inside and out. 

Thank you for showing us how important education is and knowing that you wanted to make yourself better.

Thank you for bringing opera to our world and showing other little black girls that we can sing beautifully, too.

Thank you for not letting your incident cause you hatred and fear.  You allowed that to push you forward and become the person you were meant to be.

Thank you for showing them. Showing them that black people and women can be more than what is told to us.

Thank you for still having an Amazing countenance and demeanor towards life with a quirky sense of humor.  It was engaging.

Thank you for being an inspiration to all of us Twenty and Thirty something that we can be Amazing, too!

and above all else….

Just Thank you!

Check out “When I Rise” on Independent Lens on your Local PBS station.  Yes, I know PBS is not all that exciting, but Babara Smith Conrad’s story is.  You can even watch it online at

LIVE Life…Because we are allowed.  Happy Black History Month!

Angela Wells


Trying to have an Identity…


Who are we? You’ve joined our page. You obviously like us, but who are we and why did we start this business?

Well we are comprised of a group of young ladies that were fed up with our twenties.  Nothing was going right and just when we thought things were looking up, we were quickly let back down.  We’re not bitter about it….LOL  We just have used that energy of grumbling and being frustrated to boost a new dream called Trying Twenties.  Read our company Bio below and get a better idea of who we are and where we fit in your life.  Thanks for being apart of our community.  We love all you TryingTwenties and FlirtyThirty girls. We are you and you are us….And that is Fabulous, Flirty and Fun!

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